We can set expectations for others in order to transparently frame situations.
For example, if a service provider typically charges $5000 a month for their work, and you only have $2500, but still want to work with them, you can say the following –
Thanks for taking the time to speak with me. What I’m going to offer you is far less than you normally charge. You have every right to think I’m a complete asshole for even entertaining the idea you would work at this rate. I have done everything I can to get more money and unfortunately this time around, I don’t have it. I only have $2500, however, I still wanted to present you the opportunity before bringing it to one of your competitors in case you still want the business.
Imagine the difference in the reaction to the above statement versus just offering the amount of money.
The same goes for ourselves. In the past couple months, we’ve lost multiple of our world’s most successful innovators to suicide. Mental health issues, such as depression, stem from the way we set expectations of ourselves.
When we see ourselves being at a certain level, such as generating a certain amount of income or working with clients of a specific caliber by a certain age and don’t reach it for any reason, we subject ourselves to those expectations. While we may have failed according to our own expectations, another individual could have a completely different outlook on our success.
In other words, success is subjective – we can’t allow these expectations to be a driving force of our happiness.
Instead, we need to muster the courage to recognize life won’t always go exactly as we planned, especially in the short-term, but over the long-term consistency, routine, and the disciplined pursuit of what you seek to attract will reward you… It just may not happen in the timeframe you desire. And that’s okay. Life is short, but it’s also long enough for you to accomplish what you set out to achieve.
“Turn your expectations into appreciation and your whole life will change.” – Tony Robbins