Yesterday, I had a slight pain in my ear, my eye was itchy, and then I noticed a lump behind my ear… As I have been reading When Breathe Becomes Air (a book written by a young doctor dying from lung cancer), I immediately began to worry…
So I went to the doctor this morning… The diagnosis was allergies. 🙂
Earl Nightingale says worrying is like a fog – The moisture from a dense fog covering seven city blocks is composed of less than a glass of water.
According to his estimate, 40% of the things we worry about never even happen! 30% are things we worry about have already happened and therefore, there is nothing that can be done about them.
When it comes to dealing with the situations which remain, you can either do something about them or you can’t. If you can, you should take action and if you can’t, then there’s no point to worry about them at all.
Fog supplies another great metaphor to our lives: We all have fog on our mirrors (another Byronism).
As we evolved, in order to survive, humans had to trust their instincts.
In other words, we had to believe we were right. When it came to whether there was an animal around the corner to hunt for food or to run from to escape death, we had to be absolute in our decision making.
Confidence of this nature is still powerful today. It pushes us to achieve our dreams and make our ideas a reality.
However, overconfidence can also lead us to believe our way is the best way… That our way is the only way… Tunnel vision of this nature can prevent us from having the open energy necessary to find the best ideas. Our narcissistic nature can prevent us from recognizing our own faults. Instead, we judge others for theirs.
This is one of my biggest weaknesses. When I find myself judging others around me, I need to remind myself I too have fog on my mirror!