Last year, at a dinner Rachel and I hosted for six close friends, we had a deep and honest discussion about the law of attraction.
I was asked by a member of the table how I find time for everything and am so diligent in my pursuit of opportunities. I gave a work example to display the lengths I am willing to go to achieve my professional dreams and then shifted into how I attracted Rachel into my life.
Just one year before I met Rachel, I was in an unhealthy relationship. I didn’t realize it at the time, but for years I was subconsciously attracting long-distance relationships in order to make sure my love life couldn’t get in the way of my work life.
At a leadership course I attended, I had the revelation that I wanted to have a family. Shortly thereafter, I wrote down two pages describing the ideal woman for me and what I wanted in a relationship.
The write-up was vivid, detailed, and felt very real. Most importantly, I believed it was possible for a single person to have all of these amazing characteristics – in my mind, she was out there. Little did I know, I had already met her three years before on a mountain in Utah?!
After writing the description of my dream woman, my previous relationship quickly ended – it didn’t fit the mold I had created. I went on dates, but they were different than the dates I went on before because this time I knew my vision.
Each time, I decided not to waste time entertaining the idea of a relationship with any person who wasn’t going to be “the one”. Although I hadn’t read my vision again since I wrote it, it always remained top of mind.
My energy remained open and confident. I knew what I wanted and that she was out there. And then on a random trip to Ibiza for IMS, our paths reconnected and would forever be intertwined.
As I told my friends this story over dinner, my friend Kiel instantly disputed back that I was lucky. In his view, Rachel was an amazing woman and there weren’t thousands of “unicorns” out there for the rest of the world.
Kiel was about to move to New York City, where in his own view, it would not be any easier to find what he was looking for.
I asked him if he thought his energy was conducive to finding the one. He acknowledged it wasn’t, but remained steadfast in his stance that he wasn’t going to find her and had practically given up on it.
With the door to love almost closed in his mind, the rest of the table and I challenged Kiel to see if for the next couple months he was willing to practice having open energy around the idea of a potential relationship being out there for him – a relationship that would be deep, authentic, and gratifying all at the same time.
Kiel is a brilliant individual. Recognizing the support from the rest of us, he agreed to give it a try.
Well, sure enough, a few months later, Kiel found the woman of his dreams in Marie. Just like that!
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting her briefly and can confidently say they seem like the perfect fit for each other. It hasn’t even been a year since the dinner…. Believe it or not, they have already married and even made this instagram animation to share their story with the world.
You never know when or where change will come from. You never who will make a huge impact on your life. However, if you know what you want, think about it regularly, and are open to the idea it will enter your life, then, more often than not, it will.
You don’t have to compromise.
Whatever it is you may struggling with, wish you had, or wish you had more of, if you take the time to create an intention for what you want and allow it to guide you, you can have anything your heart desires.