As 2018 comes to a close, you may start to think about areas of your life you want to give more time to in 2019.
Maybe you worked too much this year or maybe you worked too little… Maybe next year you want to spend more time with family, more time with friends, or even more time on yourself.
In my experience, you usually will not be happy if your goal is to to achieve balance across every area of your life. Instead, what’s most important is you put your time and attention toward the areas of your life you love… The ones that gives you energy. This process can go in phases, and sometimes it’s more essential to seek what makes you happy than it is to find balance.
Gary Vaynerchuk says he finds work life balance “mainly by not judging it…” He continues, “Just do whatever the hell you want to do… Who’s balance? An article in a magazine? My video? Your balance is your balance. People overthink truths. Just live your life.”
In an interview with his brother at Summit, Jeff Bezos says,
“I don’t even like the phrase work life balance. I think it’s misleading. I like the phrase work life harmony because I know that if I am energized at work, happy at work, feeling like I’m adding value, whatever energizes [the audience], that makes me better at home. It makes me a better husband, a better father, and likewise, if I’m happy at home, it makes me a better employee, better boss, all these things… There may be crunch periods where it’s about the number of hours in a week, but that’s not the real thing. Usually, it’s about do you have energy? And is your work depriving you of energy or is your work generating energy for you?”
When I shared the Gary V video with Alex Banayan yesterday, he asked if I had seen Jeff’s video above – I hadn’t until today.
Alex prefers the phrase work life integration. He believes work is part of your life, the same way a child is part of a family – nobody would ever say child family balance, so why do we say work life balance?
I’m sharing these three perspectives because no matter how successful another person is you don’t need to follow their ideology to how they prioritize or view balance. As you approach 2019, remember you can be inspired by others, but you get to find “the balance” that works for you.